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desparatedebrh   in reply to SysBot   on

What's on your heart and mind today?

I've been on aidpage for awhile now setting by listening to everyone's stories of their lives even posting my own story.

Today I am here to let all know that my 28 year old son passed away May 29th of this year. This has been the most devastating thing that has ever happened to me.  I just thought my teeth was a bad problem.  The passing of my son has crushed my heart. He was my best friend, my life, my reason for getting up and living everyday. He was my only son.

My heart aches for all those out there that are going thru such differcult times. But please be sure to slow down long enough to give your kids a hug and tell them everyday that you love them just as I did my son.  Those were always our last words when speaking on the phone or going off somewhere or just before going to bed. Always say I love you.

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desparatedebrh   in reply to SysBot   on

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Just when I thought my sons freezer was the worst of our problems I find out that I've been scammed out of 1200.00 just from trying one of those work at home jobs that are offered on the internet.  Got a call from the bank telling me my account is overdrawn by 1200.00 because a check they quaranteed me would clear came back as a counterfit check.  Now I've never heard of a counterfit check but I have now. 

Now not only needing the 1400.00 to replace my sons freezer and meet,  I know have to make 1400.00 to replace the counterfit check. The day just get better and better. 

Isnt it funny that when it rains it pours.  Its surely pouring here now.  Desparation is setting in.  The future looks quite dim to me now.  Dont know where the hope will come from.  Dont know why none of my prayers are getting answered.  Dont know why all this is happening to me and my family.  I'm ready to give up and live on the streets.  I know now why some many folks have to take to the streets.  This is a crazy cruel world we live in.

Were's all the help.  Isnt there any HONEST people in our world today.  Why do folks have to take from those who work so hard just to make ends meet.  This is a Bad Depression Day.  The worst I've had in a long time and believe me I've had a few.  I dont know where to turn to.  I dont know what to do anymore.  I just want to SCREAM into the heavens for HELP!!!!!!!  It just isnt working.  Its just not working.

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desparatedebrh   in reply to SysBot   on

What's on your heart and mind today?

I am writing just like everyone else to ask for help.  This has been a very bad morning, worse than those I've faced in the past.  I've been on Aidpage talking about me and my terrible teeth problem and needing help to get them pulled and dentures put in.  I've found nothing so far exept alot of insurances plans I cant afford.  Anyway I have been on here for awhile because I've been trying to make money almost anyway I can - legally that is.

Well just when I thought things could not get worse - they do.  This time my concerns are with my son and his 5 year old boy.  He's my story.  My son is the manager of a meat company.  He sells Steak, Seafood and Chicken door to door, company to company or just to anyone who loves a good deal.  The meat is great by the way if anyone may want to purchase some. But I'm not here to try to sell but if I could sell just to make some money I'd do it.

Anyways the problem is is that he brings his meat truck home every night with a freezer on the back of it full of meat.  Well last night we went to bed with everything being ok.  This morning we awake to find out that someone during the night stole his freezer and all the meat in it.  We're talking $ 1400.00 worth of stuff.  My son gets to work to report it being stolen only to have his boss tell him he has to come up with the money by the end of this week.  Well we all know how IMPOSSIBLE something like that is especially if you're just barely making ends meet as it is.

My son works from 8 a.m. in the morning till 11 p.m. at night selling meat and running the office.  He does this 6 days a week and most the time on Sundays too.  He was planning on a Good Christmas for his 5 year old son this year.  His son doesnt live with him.  His sons mother cant afford to give the child any kind of new things like clothes, shoes etc.  He's lucky to get food I guess.  So my son wanted to buy him new clothes, new shoes etc so he wouldnt be so embarressed when he goes to school looking at everyone else's nice things.

I guess I'm asking if there's anyone out there that can donate anything - money, clothes, shoes , ANYTHING.  Even if you only have a dollar to give - you know dollars add up if enough people are willing to give.  Seems like our country can send money to everywhere else except to the United States where there are so many children doing without.  Id love to tell folks its just a dollar a day donation and end up with 30.00 from everyone.  That would be Great but it just doesnt happen.  I guess I should take a picture of the 5 year old and send it to the news and show them OUR kids are doing without just like those in other countries.  Dont get me wrong - I want EVERY child to have what they need.  Its just that theres so many Americans that need and there's no Rich folks out there helping any of those here in the United States.  It frustrates me badly.

I set up a Paypal account just in case someone out there can donate even 50 cents to help this little boy out.  My son will go on even though this Friday he will loose his job and I dont know what we will do then.  I have to live with him because of all the bad luck I've had the past few months and he's worked his butt off just trying to pay the bills in his house with me no working.  I do sell a little on ebay but I'm not very experienced and I dont charge enough to make any money - in fact I'm losing money.

I want his child to have some new pants, shirts, shoes, just the basic necessaties for xmas.  I dont know  how to go about getting it so I'm here asking for advise.  If you know of any charities in Atlanta that give to children please let me know.  If anyone out there can donate anything, 50 cents - 1.00 or even clothes please let me know.  You can post a response on my Aidpage page or send me an email at debrhbeatty@yahoo.com.  Any and all help would surely be appreciated.

My teeth problems arent even important to me anymore now that I see my other members of my family going thru so much turmoil.  The world is for these young kids. They are innocent and believe the world is a good place.  They havent been touched by the thieves, crooks and all the dishonest people around us.  Its hard to make an honest living when those around you steal it from you anyways.  I cant believe someone would take such a big freezer and meat just for their own selfish reasons.  It was raining last night so theres no fingerprints, nothing that can be traced.  They knew what they were doing. 

Sorry for such a long letter but I didnt know where else to turn.  There's so many people needing so many things and each one I pray will get what they need.  I pray ALL The Time.  I just dont thing even God can help my son out this time and his son too.  Friday isnt that far away.  My son is crushed.  His spirits are down.  He's giving up on the world.  I worry about him alot because all of this that has happened to him.  If it wasnt for my son I would be out living in the streets so I've got to try everything in my power to help him out of this situation.  A 5 year old shouldnt have to do without just so some drug crazed nut needed money or whatever the reason the people did what they did.

Please help me anyway you can.  I hope all have a Blessed Day and may God be with all of you and your troubles.  If I ever get in the position to help people I will dedicated my life to it. 

Thanks for listening

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desparatedebrh  

Life, Love and Misery

We all have to live and love but the hard part is the misery that seems to come with both of these. Growing up we dont realize how wonderful it is to have our parents help us thru the tough parts of our lives.  Even when we get older our folks still try to help but even they run out of money and cant help us anymore or we've lost our folks and it makes it even harder.

I wish I had an answer to our lives problems.  If I could help everyone on aidpage I surely would.  Sometimes though I've found that just talking with those in the same situation as I'm in does help alot.  None of us are alone in all the problems we face.  There's alot of people out there trying to find help for the same thing we are.  I know that talking isnt getting us money or paying our rent but one day we will all meet the person or persons that will be able to help us.

I know its probably crazy but I do think everyone in the world has a heart.  I know people who are rich tend to be greedy with their money but thats how they became rich.  I have a brother-in-law who could pay for my dentist and probably a bunch others but he won't come off a dime for anyone.  He always says that he had to help himself so why should he help others.  This phase tends to piss me off to say the least.  There's alot of us who have tried every way we know how to help ourselves but its just impossible.  Every now and then someone with money should just say - ok - I want to help those less fortunate than me.  People are bad about making assumptions and most the time the assumptions are right.  How can you truly know someone by just looking at them.

So what I dont buy the 200.00 pants or the 100.00 shirt.  So what that I buy Walmart and KMart clothes.  Why judge me for this.  I'm still dressed nice.  So what that I dont live in a big fancy house or drive a big fancy car.  That doesnt make me scum or a bad person.  Maybe I just like living where I live and driving what I drive.  God is the only one who can judge us and he has his hands full trying to help us all.  But he NEVER gives up on any of us.  He ALWAYS gives second - third - fourth chances and even more if we need it. Some folks think im crazy when I say that he's answered many prayers for me in the past and I know he will in the future.  Praying is great.  I dont go to church because unfortunately people really judge you there.  If you cant give enough money to the church they look down on you instead of helping you.  If you wear blue jeans to church - well - thats a no no.  I dont critizize anyone for going to church but my prayers in my own home are answered as those are who go to church. 

Dont get me wrong, I'm sure there are churches out there that do help those in need.  I'm just one who has never come across one.  I hate to be judged because once upon a time I had a marriage, a child, a job, money and everything one would need.  Then my life just fell apart.  I'm still trying year after year to put it back together.  I know in my heart that one day everything will be fine again if I just keep trying.  Thats what we all have to do "just keep trying and praying".  One day I hope i can win a lottery or just come into money one day and I promise I will help as many as I can on AidPage because this is what holds me together from day to day at the moment.  Although I havent gotten help I've still gotten alot of ideas on where I can get help.

I hope everyone has a great day and even though we all cry alot - there is still hope.  Never give up.  The answer is just around the corner.

Thanks,

Debbie

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desparatedebrh   in reply to SysBot   on

What's on your heart and mind today?

 in response to helpinghands...   

I do pray that one day I'll sign onto aidpage and there will be the answer.  I'm not going to give up and you shouldn't either.  Its hard for alot of people to understand dental problems.  Alot of them think we should have done something before our mouths got so bad.  Unfortunately when you dont have alot of money or no money - it isnt that easy.  Dental programs are great but they do cost.  You know I would clean the dental office for them if they would just offer some kind of service.  I'd even have a tooth pulled a week (whats left of them) if they'd let me work it off.  There's so many ways that Dentist can help and let us pay like they did in the olden days like bringing fresh garden vegetables to them.

None of us really want anything for free, its just that we dont have the actual cash to pay for it.  We do have other abilities though.  I wish you the best in finding help and I do think AidPage is the best thing thats happened to the internet. There are alot of folks out there needing help and alot of times people will post different phone numbers for different areas of help that you can call.  Just keep checking and one day the right number or answer will be there.  I'm going to keep looking for help myself.

I've joined the AidPage team.  My website is http://desparatedebrh.aidpage.com/.  I've just started it up but if you want to check it out in the next few days - hopefully I will start finding some answers to our questions.

Have a Great Day and Pray

Debbie

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All Dentist welcome

If your a dentist and can help out with expenses in any area of your work, please let me and all those on aidpage know.  Most of us need free or inexpensive dental work.  Most of us are all desperate for help. 

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desparatedebrh   in reply to SysBot   on

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 in response to helpinghands...   

i can truly relate to what your asking for. Just a little help from anybody especially the from the ones who can actually give it.

My mouth is in terrible shape. I have gum disease and have been trying and looking for help with the finances of paying for it.  My life situation at the moment prevents me from being able to work.  There's no such thing as a free dentist that I have found just yet.  But we should never give up because just when we think we cant take it anymore - something changes - it may take a day - a week - a month or even longer - but i do believe things will change and for the better.

I know thats probably not alot of help to you but my prayers will be with you.  Thats about all i have at the moment but praying does seem to help me and i hope it will help you too.

Good luck and let me know if you find the help your looking for

desparatedebrh

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desparatedebrh   in reply to soulight   on

MORE FREE AND LOW COST DENTAL HELP LISTED BY STATE

Is there no help for people living in Georgia?  I've looked at all the states but theres no Georgia in any of the pages lve looked at.  Where do I find the free dental help in Georgia?  If anyone know please let me know.

Thanks and have a great day

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desparatedebrh   in reply to SysBot   on

Aidpage group discussing "FREE DENTAL"...

There's no such thing as "Free Dental"  is there?  I've looked and searched and asked and did everything in my power that I could think of to find a Free Dentist.  There seems to be no one out there that is willing to help us with all our teeth problems. 

Sometimes we all go down the wrong road and may not be as responsible as a person as what we should be - but all in all - I'm a good person.  Had a great life once upon a time.  But when it rains it definately pours!!  Its been pouring on me for a very long long time now.  I need a job so bad and my mouth (teeth) is the only thing keeping me from it.

Dental problems are no laughing matter.  The have help for the young and for the old but those in between it seems theres no help at all.  If anyone knows where you can go and get help for dental problems then please post a post on here so we all can read it.  At the moment I have no job, living with my son, lost my boyfriend and my house.  I could go on and on but I'm sure everyone has heard or lived or living this story before. 

I hope and pray that one day I can come up with an answer that would help me and all those in the same situation to solve or problems.  To add to it, I have 2 pit bull dogs which I have to find them a place to live and well - that ones a hard one too.  Lots of folks dont like pits only because they've never had them.  But these dogs are my babies and in my mind theres no sweeter animal than a pit. 

Anyways to make a long story short - Lets all stick together and try a little harder and maybe between a great community of people - we all can make a difference in someones life or maybe even our own.

The only problem I see with Aidpage is that we ALL need help of some sort.  Where are the people that can give us help?  When do they read Aidpage and make comments?  I havent seen any from any of them.  There needs to be a way or a charity to where people that can help - will help.  Make it easy for them to donate to our charity instead of ones they dont even know about. 

Everyone I hope you have a great day and may god be with all of you.  Never give up - the answer is just around the corner. I hope

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desparatedebrh   in reply to SysBot   on

Aidpage group discussing "Feeling Hopeless"...

If you think about it, if only ONE , just ONE, dentist , doctor, lawyer, or any profession that some of us need help from would just email or post a comment or anything on this page offering help just once a month for free, think of the folks they could help.  Depression is a horrible state to be in.  Feeling hopeless, sometimes I just wish all those folks with money could be in any of our shoes just for a day, you know what?  They'd be a whole lot more help out there for those who need it then there is now days.

I feel hopeless every day of my life but I do find that praying helps in many ways.  God can listen to your fears and even though you think he may not be helping, well, he is.  We've all heard that God works in misterious ways - well this is true.  We may not realize we're being helped but we are.  Now this is coming from me - who has bad dental problems, hate to job hunt because I feel like people are looking at my mouth and not knowing me for who I am.  But I keep going from day to day and I keep searching for an answer.  I know one day my ship will come in but to me it does seem like it never will.

I do find it helps to talk to all the people on aidpage because so many of us have the same problems and ALL of us just need a little help.  I wish those who could help us would join aidpage and at least help one or two that cant help themselves and not judge us before they get to know us.  Are there any folks like that out there?  Please let me know.

Just when you think you've had enough,  DONT QUIT, just dont quit.  Tomorrow is a new day and a new beginning for all of us. Every little thing will be alright with time.  Time changes everything.

Thanks

Debbie

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desparatedebrh   in reply to kat57   on

About Needed & Wanted Drs, Dentists, Oral Surgeons, Oral Specialists,, Our nation is in a crisis

 in response to kat57...   

Thanks for your reply.  Seems everything you said I should say to my son, I actually did.  I know people have to deal with death in their own ways and everyone is different.  I've been by his side thru all the past death and even though there was nothing I could do - I always let him know I was there when he needed to talk, or cry or whatever.  And your right about the way his friends died - only one was from cancer which he watched for 3 years  his friend slowly pass away. 

I care probably to much for my son.  He wants to sell his car in order to pay to get my teeth fixed.  He's got a beautiful car and I'm sure it would pay for my mouth.  Thats when I started looking over the internet to see if their was anyone out there that could help me with my dental problems before he sells what he loves so much.   Am I sounding nuts?

Well im rambling on but thanks for all the help and understanding you throw my way.  I do leave my life in Gods hands and believe praying is about all I've got left .  He's always pretty good about getting me thru the worst times.  But I know he cant do it all himself so I have to make any effort n work with him.  This is what I'm doing - Finally

Thanks,

Debbie

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desparatedebrh   in reply to kat57   on

About Needed & Wanted Drs, Dentists, Oral Surgeons, Oral Specialists,, Our nation is in a crisis

 in response to dry...   

The main problem with one of these realities shows is that most of us wouldnt go and try out for them due to our teeth.  I'd be to embarressed.  Of course if its like some of the shows where your family calls in and surprises the person with a new mouth make over - well that might just work.  It really would be worth a try.

Maybe Oprah or ALL the talk show host could do a show on mouth makeovers and pay for the whole cost of it.  Theres so many ways the rich can help but people tell me that they didnt get rich by just giving money away.  We actually need a chariety that gives just for dental.  Thanks for your comments - makes my mind start thinking .

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desparatedebrh   in reply to kat57   on

About Needed & Wanted Drs, Dentists, Oral Surgeons, Oral Specialists,, Our nation is in a crisis

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I agree with you that this is a great site.  I do think alot but my problem is putting the ball into action.  This sounds dumb, I know, but I didnt even think to look up reality shows on the internet.  Guess I probably could find one.  I'm gonna try that when I get a chance later today.  My son is going thru a terrible time today from the loss of his grandfather and its making him think of all the friends he's lost over the past few years.  He's only 27 and has lost to many others his friends all in bad ways.

I hope everyone will pray for him to be able to help him get thru this time of sorrow. A mother can only do so much and I feel its never enough because I cant take the pain from his heart nor clear his head. 

Sorry I kinda got off track just then.  Great idea's you have kat. Thanks

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I'm on aidpage due to my teeth.  I have a gum disease and am loosing my teeth one by one month by month.   I need help financially getting the rest of my teeth pulled and have dentures put in.  I was hoping to find someone or something to help me out.  I hate not being able to smile.  Its ruined my life so I finally asked for help.  Aidpage seems like a great place to be able to talk and listen at the same time.  I was checking on government grants hoping for the money to help fix my teeth.   Havent found any yet though

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I used to have AmeriPlan until I broke up with my boyfriend and unfortunately I didnt have a chance to use it the short period of time I had it.  Problem now is that I live with my son and he barely gets by paying for his home and bills.  I'm trying to get the confidence to go job hunting and I have but problem there is that people judge you by the way you look not the skills you have.  I know because I was the store manager of Dollar General and now its hard to get a cashiers job.  I know everyone looks at my teeth and I hate it.  I do pray and pray for a solution but as of yet I havent found one.  Although I did find this site and its helped me alot talking and reading what others have to say.  Its a great group of people.  Its nice to know others out there really do care.

Thanks for your suggestion and I have talked to a representative of AmeriPlan and I am going to start selling it so wish me luck. 

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desparatedebrh   in reply to SysBot   on

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I'd love to help on the grant issue because I've been checking into the too.   Everyone I've checked so far online has wanted money up front to send me information.   Seems like there should be a way to get the info for free.  So if anyone out there is readiing this please let me know if you know of a way to get the info for free and maybe it would help me and Tiffany.  

Let me know if you have any luck Tiffany

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desparatedebrh   in reply to kat57   on

About Needed & Wanted Drs, Dentists, Oral Surgeons, Oral Specialists,, Our nation is in a crisis

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Thats a great idea and if I knew how to get ahold of someone in show business I sure would suggest that idea.  Its true though, there are so many of us that need help and are good people and there just isnt anyone out there to help us.  Its funny cause the rich people give donations to organisations that they dont even know there given to just to get a tax break.  Id love for there to be a program giving to those who have teeth or mouth problems that cant afford to pay for the help they need for one reason or another. Maybe we should try to organize a charity for that purpose alone.  Any ideas? 

That truly is a great idea.

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I'm a 49 year old woman with gum disease.  Alot of my teeth have fallen out.  Mainly the front top and front bottom.  I need to get dentures but have researched and cant seem to find anyone who is willing to help me get the care I need.  If anyone out there knows where to find a dentist that is free of charge or minimal charge please contact me at debrhbeatty@yahoo.com.  I'm scared to death of dentist.  Its my one fear in life.  I need about 15 teeth pulled (most of which have broken off).  I need dentures for top and bottom.  I need a good job but due to my teeth - well - everyone looks at me like I'm on drugs or just didnt take care of my teeth is why they are like this.  I admit its been about 10 years since I've went to a dentist and this I regret tremendously.  Its to late to whine about the past and I'm trying to get my life started again and need HELP!!!! 

If theres anything anyone can do to help me please let me know a.s.a.p.  I will be in your debt forever.  I'm a great worker but am so embarressed about my teeth that its hard to go into a place of business and apply for a job.  I dont even want to go to a fast food place cause I'm to embaressed.  I know people say I could have prevented this and they may be right.  But the time has come that I have to ask for help (which is very hard to do).  I need the work done for free if at all possible.  I'm willing to be a quinea pig for a dentist office just to prevent anyone else from feeling the way I do.  I'll do anything to get my teeth fixed (legally that is).

Your help is grately appreciated.  Thanks

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